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By: Sharon Hurley Hall

Sharon Hurley Hall — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 17:19:07 +0000

“We’re not a skin colour … we’re people” – exactly, Ann. Sometimes you have to shrug off the negativity, move on and not let it poison your life.

By: Ann/WritingJobResource.com

Ann/WritingJobResource.com — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 09:10:44 +0000

I have to admit I was a bit…turned off by his (her?) story. As female writers, we should be role models…and if we think we need to change our gender in order to become successful, what message are we telling others? That “positive discrimination” is okay if it helps you make more money?

You’re a great example for everybody, Sharon — you have talent and you’re not afraid to be yourself. I’m also a minority race (Asian) and have been subjected to racist remarks…surprisingly, from fellow writers. It’s really unfortunate that people still feel the need to judge people based on the colour of their skin. We’re not a skin colour…we’re people.

By: Sharon Hurley Hall

Sharon Hurley Hall — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 13:33:25 +0000

Bravo, Gina!

By: Sharon Hurley Hall

Sharon Hurley Hall — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 13:32:16 +0000

Thanks, Jeanne

By: Gina

Gina — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 18:17:57 +0000

Thanks for focusing on the James story. I have been railing for years about how women’s stories and lives are as repressed, suppressed, and devalued as they ever were. Women are still too careful in how they speak in society–still tiptoeing around the opinions of others. We need bolder women. This story only underlines my desire to speak and write with honesty, regardless of how much I’m “punished” in so many subtle ways.

By: Jeanne Dininni

Jeanne Dininni — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 04:57:44 +0000

Bravo, Sharon! Well-said!

It’s very sad that such a situation should exist, but it’s great that you’ve chosen not to compromise precisely because you do know your worth and have proven it again and again.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts so simply yet eloquently!

With admiration,
Jeanne

By: Sharon Hurley Hall

Sharon Hurley Hall — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 09:29:55 +0000

My disgust is all for the sexism that the experiment reveals, Allena, so I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree on this one.

By: Allena

Allena — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 00:05:21 +0000

I disagree with you, Sharon. Well, I agree that YOU know your worth, but I disagree that “James” knew hers. That is where you two part. I’m pretty sure that James did accept less: she accepted the “need” to play a part, which she and her partner have admitted was awful and stressful. Sure sounds like “less” for me. I’m sorta disgusted and repulsed.

By: Karen Swim

Karen Swim — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 00:15:34 +0000

Sharon, I liked you and realized your value for who you are period. Thank you for your open, honest sharing of your experience. Like you, I have had people meet me and in shock admit, “you don’t sound black.” I have been called the “n” word as recently as a few months ago, when it was hurled from a car window when I was out on a walk. Still, I choose not to see the ugliness. I choose to not enforce their ignorance by reacting in hatred or shame. I am proud of the person I am and the work I do. If that is not enough for some people it’s really their loss. However, I was typically higher paid than my male counterparts in Corporate. I have always been comfortable negotiating and would ask for things other would not. Doesn’t erase the reality we live in but it is proof that there is hope.
.-= Karen Swim´s last blog ..Why You Should Learn to Fight Fair =-.